$213k FRS milestone, >$1m HDB sold, business class flight redeemed

Thank you to the well meaning people who commented on my previous post. 

I am learning about myself, learning to be a better person. Learning to validate and appreciate myself.

I've been watching more meditation and spiritual videos, and learning to look and grow from within.

Through the videos, it taught me to be more contented and appreciative (I have been learning to give thanks every day), to complain less and gossip about people (because it is creating negative energies, hatred and bitterness in myself). 

On the latter, it is easier said than done. I reflected that I've been very bitter about many things, having a lot of hatred for people whom I've crossed paths with for their treatment and attitude towards me. From relatives, to people I interact at work. I try to rationalise that these people are just passer by and have no real effect on my daily life - if I could cut ties with my toxic relatives, I can also cut off may things that expend my energy.

I reflected that I complained about my boss and colleague(s) every day at work; I partake in discussions with colleagues and while it bonded us together, I am aware it's not helpful in any way. I am learning to stop and think positively. That what I go through are lessons to grow myself better.

Few weeks ago, I was hit by anger and hatred. I tried to breathe in and out to regulate my emotions but it was hard to keep calm. It was meaningless repeat of negative comments and treatment from people that floated past my head. I took a piece of paper and titled it "f*** you list" and listed the names of people I dislike from childhood till now. From the list, I strike off people who hurt me most - around 25. I wasn't surprised by the number of people who made me felt poorly about myself. But I was surprised that I missed out people from my former company - where my former boss was a b*tch. I conveniently forgot I was in this company as I reflected who to list! This made me realise, these people don't matter and were insignificant! At a heat of anger, stupid thoughts float past my mind on what people commented of me, how people act towards me, but this act of forgetting feels like a form of healing in itself, a quiet declaration that their impact has faded.

I am learning to give thanks every day and appreciate the love I receive daily. From my husband's efforts in taking good care of me, to my mum preparing my breakfast, to my dad buying me dinner. In fact, there was a night where my mum cooked for me and I was standing behind her as she prepare the ingredients, that I felt a pang of guilt mixed with happiness. I thought - how long more can my mum cook for me? Each moment like these, while simple, makes it very heartwarming. It's really the simple things that counts. 

I am learning to be present.

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March 2025 marked a memorable month in terms of my finances.

The first milestone was where my CPF SA reached $213k. Through years of top-up, I've reached a stage where I'm unable to top-up further.

The second milestone was receiving my proceeds from the sales of my flat and a big fat $1m has reached our joint account. 

I was overjoyed for a moment when I saw the million dollar sum in my account. It felt unreal - as if it was a glitch. But the joy didn't last long because we have purchased a new launch / another debt to pay so it was practically "nice to see but cannot touch".

I joked with my husband that we have changed our status. We are now "homeless". But this is where I am thankful that my in-laws is able to accomodate us back home.

These 2 milestones brought me comfort that I'm in a decently comfortable financial situation, and hopefully for earlier retirement.

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April 2025 - one milestone is successfully exchanging for 2 SQ business class flight for myself and hubby next year! 

After 3 years of accumulating miles, I finally exchanged my 5th business class flight and I am looking forward to my trip.

Also took part in Restaurant Week where my husband and I celebrated our anniversary. I'm still careful in spending $100+ on a meal for two, but we are only doing so for special occasion. 

Here's to more milestones to share next!