Already 5 years into the workforce. What have I built?

It was a sudden awakening - I've already worked for more than 5 years.

But what have I achieved?

I stepped into the rat race as a noob (nobody uses this word now, I admit I'm old), being tekan by unhelpful "seniors" who thankfully left after 1+ year of torture and earning lesser than my peers, to slowly building up my confidence, emerging stronger and being more courageous to say "No", proving myself along the way and getting rewarded with better bonuses and increments.

I know I'm working just for the money (and the medical benefits that comes with it).

If I look at the money, so far, I should be doing it right in my career. I've decent bonuses and decent increments. I'm in a general profession, but I'm doing pretty ok.

So what has my 5 years of work got me?


Through employment, coupled with my thrifty habits, I managed to hit $100k savings at 25 years old. And it took me another 2-3 years to get another  $100k at 28.

But, along with it,…

Baby or no, is that your business?

For the first 20 odd years of my life, I've walked a predictable route.

I was drilled from young that, to succeed in life, I must study hard. I didn't study hard enough to get scholarships but it was passable. I walked the standard educational route, just like everyone else - passed my PSLE, passed my O Levels, went to JC and went to the local uni.

The next was to find a job, get a flat, get married.

And have a baby.

But in this common route, there is something unpredictable and out of my control i.e having a baby (and possibly getting a successful BTO ballot, though we can always go the resale route).

If you realise, in the left column of my blog lies some goals I set back in 2016. Of which, having a kid was set at 30....because I was guessing it would not be easy to hit the jackpot after hearing stories from others.

Ever since I got married, I've received irritating comments from colleagues who are not close to begin with, asking me when I'll be taking my maternity leave. I was asked if I was actively trying, or am I preventing it. Is that even your business?

My parents had not raised a single question about childbearing (yet), and I assume they are respectful that such things take time, and really, luck.

His mum did hint though, asking us to 早生贵子. But so far, nothing irritating yet. Honestly, these 4 words are what I dread the most during wedding, so much so that I removed it from the emcee wedding scripts. I don't need to be reminded of that. Nor be valued as a childbearing machine the moment I got married.

My hubby has been really sweet while I've been stressing myself for the first few months. "Take it easy. It means I can spend more alone time with you", he said.

Yes, I want kids. But no, please don't ask when I'll have them.

Do you know when you will die? Then pls, don't ask me the question that I've no answer for.

Thank you.


  1. Hi, I understand the feeling you are going through and it can be frustrating and disappointing even if they never asked. I believe the key is not to be stressful. You can probably search for social groups who experience the same situation. It will help.

  2. 早生贵子,多生几个猪宝宝。

  3. Frankly speaking, you dont have to feel stress about this. It's your body and your life. If you are ready, you are ready. Having a kid because of pressures from other people is the silliest thing ever.


Post a Comment

No rude messages please. Unkind messages and spams will be blocked and deleted.

All content provided on this blog is for informational purposes only. The owner of this blog makes no representations as to the accuracy or completeness of any information on this site or found by following any link on this site. The owner of this blog will not be liable for any errors or omissions in this information nor for the availability of this information. The owner will not be liable for any losses, injuries, or damages from the display or use of this information.

Popular posts from this blog

My 10 credit cards and which to say goodbye to 😢

How I save >$150k before 28 - updated tips

An offer came...and I'm undecided